I was speaking at a mentoring conference and a young man raised his hand to ask question. He was given an opportunity and the question centered on the fact that his mentor does not like him, that he keep back information from him and all that.
After probing a little, I discovered that he was not doing something that is vital to mentoring relationship - Thankfulness. Many don't see the reason to be thankful to their mentors, after all, they paid to join his mentoring programme. Well, it may be true that you paid, but thankfulness is a habit that every man should ordinarily develop.
When your mentor gives you a piece of information and it worked well for you and probably raked in some hundreds or thousand of Dollars. Courtesy demands that you go back and say thanks to him.
Having associated with so many mentors, I have come to a conclusion that great mentors don't give out information 'totally'. Please understand the context under which the word totally is used here. It has nothing to do with keeping back or punishment. It is just their way of testing obedience, and not wanting to overwhelm the mentoree with too much at a time.
When you report back on the last information and say thanks, you have access to the next and the next and the next. Sometimes, he gives you bonuses.
Appreciation in mentoring relationship has nothing to do with bribe. Absolutely nothing! It is a way of saying you are grateful to the mentor for his time and information, especially when it has worked well for you.
Appreciation can take any of the following forms:
INFORMATION AND SUGGESTION THAT CAN HELP HIM IMPROVE
SOLID UNSOLICITED TESTIMONY
PROMOTION OF HIS SERVICES TO OTHERS
HELPING HIM TO DO SOME WORK FOR FREE
When a mentor gives you information and he notices, that you are the grateful type, you hear something like this: "sorry James, I forgot to also tell you that ..." "I forgot to include this e-book in the pack I sent to you, here it is"
In actual fact, he didn't forget, the new information or material was simply a reward of your appreciation.
So go on this week keep appreciating people. Especially those who are contributing to your success in life and business. Remember the saying that 'if you are not grateful, you are a great fool'.
To your success.